I’m constantly double-checking whether I turned off the iron and closed the door. Everything is fine with me?
Has this ever happened to you: you go out of the house, close the door and come back, realizing you forgot to check if the gas/light/iron was off? Or you have compulsive activities that come up with excitement and stress? Yulia Minakova, a doctor-psychiatrist of the general psychiatric department, told the correspondent of the “Lantern” why such actions occur and how dangerous they may be.
According to the psychiatrist, some rituals later develop into a habit. For example, the editor-in-chief of “The Lantern,” when closing the office door, is sure to make sure that it is locked.
Do unusual things
You have to do something unusual and silly to remember the action. Make up your own idea of what to do. the action should be unnecessary, funny. For example, when you turn off the iron, jump up, dance or give yourself a light tap on the forehead.
Every time throughout the day you will have doubts about whether you turned off the iron, you will easily remember such a deliberate stupidity and immediately remember that the iron is off.
Set the alarm for a time when you have no more than 5 minutes before you go out, and place it in the hallway. A bell and the desire to turn it off will be associated with checking the iron.
A magnet with a notepad for notes is a great tool to combat forgetfulness. Write in advance everything you have to remember to do, with the days of the month at the bottom.
Before leaving, check the sheet, sign against the number and take a picture for full control.
Protection systems against overheating
What happens if you do not turn off the iron, it is already clear to many people. Almost everyone has a story about how the reviewed household appliance caused many problems to the forgetful owners. In order to reduce the risk of fire and property damage, companies have introduced new protection technologies by manufacturers.
Fuses installed in all modern models and versions save the device from a power surge. Additionally put sensors to control the position of the soleplate relative to the plane. The set and adjusted temperature settings in the iron avoid high and prolonged heating.
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In case the soleplate is too hot, the iron will turn off until the temperature drops. However, when choosing an iron, it is worth checking the information about the protection systems either with a consultant or look for them yourself on the box of the device.
Is the door closed and the iron off?? 3 ways to get rid of obsessive thoughts and the habit of double-checking everything
YEREVAN, August 21. News-Armenia. There are times when an oppressive feeling makes you go back and check again what you exactly did before going out. Even if you’re sure you’ve turned off the iron, the gas, and closed the windows and the front door, you still feel like you’ve forgotten something. Kiz.Ru looked into how to get rid of intrusive thoughts and asked Denis Ivanov, clinical psychologist and head of social programs at the Association of Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapy, about this.
Such conditions are called obsessive-compulsive by experts, because the pressing and oppressive feeling may not leave you until you once again check whether everything is all right.
Intrusive thoughts make you feel uncomfortable, cause anxiety or even panic, you begin to think as if something threatens your life. In this case, you react to your own emotions and cannot address the obvious facts.
- All people are biologically different, so some people develop obsessive compulsive disorder more than others. Someone from birth is accustomed to not worrying, considering it a trifle, and someone can not abstract and distract himself during the day, worrying that he forgot to close the door.
- Everyone grew up in different circumstances, so people’s psychology is also different. Perhaps those who have experienced psychological trauma, or already faced the consequences of mistakes, will be more alert and vigilant.
- In addition, people are strongly influenced by their environment and the people with whom they interact.
You double-check your actions, not because there is a real reason or threat, but because you are afraid of your own intrusive thoughts and the unpleasant feeling, most often coupled with the anxiety these thoughts cause.
To cope with discomfort, you find many ways to relax, to abstract, and more often than not, multiple checks of what is causing the anxiety help. For some people, this develops into certain rituals: checking the doorknob several times or asking relatives to check the iron.
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Everyone finds the most comfortable way for themselves to calm down, from multiple double-checks of themselves to unbelievable actions, like walking around facing northeast or tapping on a tree. Many people believe that these rituals will help them avoid trouble.
It’s really not the events themselves that bother you, but how you relate to them. You are not afraid of the iron being turned on or the door being open because you know everything is fine, but of the threat that may arise from a mistake you have made yourself.
When you worry, you mistakenly rely on your feelings as the main signal. Excessive emotionality interferes, you believe the momentary reactions, not what you are sure of. Psychologically speaking, your double-checks and obsessive thoughts are just automatic actions. In this way, you avoid being uncomfortable, run away from your own thoughts, and regain your sense of security. All efforts are aimed at stifling emotions and calming down.
This is the trick of the brain: the more you act on your anxieties and emotions, the more you are convinced that your multiple double-checks are working. However, they work temporarily; in the long run, running away from your unpleasant and intrusive states is like running away from your own shadow. you cannot get rid of them without introspection or the help of a specialist.
- Ask yourself the question: What would happen if you did not double-check your actions five or ten times today, but did it only twice??
- Write down all the consequences which could happen because of your possible mistake, and find out how justified they are.
- Think and try to trace what is the chance that right now you have not shut off the water in the apartment or did not close the door. You are trapped in a vicious circle: if you do not double-check yourself, you can not think about anything else and will be in a state of anxiety.
Despite your fears, the only way to get your STIHL back is to prove to yourself that disasters don’t happen, and that you are capable of handling it. Only by facing your fears, rather than resorting to the usual “rescue rituals” person can get out of the vicious circle of anxiety and worry.
Remember that you don’t have to put yourself in any real danger, you don’t have to sleep with the apartment door open or risk losing things that are important to you. It is necessary to prove to yourself that you can trust your own mind, following the usual algorithm of action. After you leave the apartment, whatever discomfort and excitement you may have, you will not have to resort to your usual rituals.
How do I remember if I turned the iron off or not?
I don’t remember if I turned the iron off or not. What’s the risk of fire?? The iron is not very new, Braun. I’m only a second week at a new job, I’m embarrassed to ask for time off 🙁 So horror-horror and run home, or no big deal and it periodically turns off by itself?
la_moor 2008-07-03 10:32:00 (link)i’ve forgotten a few times, it heats up and turns off if there’s no short circuit, it shouldn’t light up
sinistra1456 2008-07-03 10:33:00 (link) where and how does it? red-hot jammed into a rag? Then you have to go home. if standing upright. I don’t think it’s gonna light up. Unless the wiring goes up in flames. Unless you have trouble spots all along the wire. Then it’s probably nothing. But it’s good for the nerves, I know that.)
sinistra1456 2008-07-03 11:38:00 (link) yes it shouldn’t. I once had the same proverbial hair tongs left on. on the woodwork. they have a plastics base, but they were also turned on on the wood! kind of like an iron. so it’ll probably be fine if it’s still on
extravagantza 2008-07-03 10:35:00 (link)you turned it off, I’m telling you. just the actions we do on autopilot, we don’t remember))))
sinistra1456 2008-07-03 11:34:00 (link)wow))) now i don’t just push the button to turn the hairpin off, i unplug it too. So far, the moment of pulling the plug is saved in the memory (the moment of turning off the button is not delayed anymore. there is a process of memory decay)))
taig_vagrant 2008-07-03 11:45:00 (link) because the action is “automatic”. 🙂 I regularly forget, whether I have closed the door. at first I used to go back and then I’ve forgotten, having learned: “I NEVER forget to close the door”. The only exception was when my now ex-husband and I “trusted” each other.
no_gift 2008-07-03 13:26:00 (link)I’m the same way)now I try to do it slow and talk it through. Okay, I’m turning off the iron.
bu_k_a 2008-07-04 01:17:00 (link)If you also put it back on. no problem at all. I may not remember if I turned it off or not, but it’s high up hidden from the kids, so it’s definitely off.
scromnaya 2008-07-03 12:22:00 (link) 1. I once agonized a long time wondering if I had closed the front door. Closed it after all :))
zzzzuka 2008-07-03 10:38:00 (link) I once left it on and it was on for over a day. Well it was just standing on the table turned on. Nothing happened.
I’ve been paranoid ever since, though, and I always check to see if the irons are off )))))
glipka 2008-07-03 10:43:00 (link)a similar thing happened in our village, almost two days. Next to the bed! I noticed it when I decided to iron another set of clothes. I don’t know how long the poor thing would have stood like that if I hadn’t been tempted to do the deed. Now I’m paranoid too. I walk around the apartment before I go out and make sure the gas, electric heaters and lights are off. “
glipka 2008-07-03 10:53:00 (link)you have an electric one and I have a gas one. I have a thing about gas, that’s why I check it twenty times. overlapped or not :).
tekna 2008-07-03 17:35:00 (link) can I ask about the gas?=))) all my life I’ve lived with an electric stove =)) and here there’s a possibility of using the gas one. should i do it on the pipe or what??=)
sunteen 2008-07-03 20:47:00 (link)no, don’t )) why?I’ve lived my whole life with gas in the apartment, this question confused me )) I’ve never asked it and never seen anyone switch the valve on the pipe.Well, unless the grandmother who came from the village 🙂
glipka 2008-07-04 13:27:00 (link) me, I’m a grandmother from the countryside! i turn off the valve on the pipe. cause i’m scared 🙂
glipka 2008-07-04 13:28:00 (link) I replied below that it was on the pipe. at night and when I leave home. at a reflex level already 🙂
pattu 2008-07-03 11:09:00 (link) put a piece of paper on the door that reads: TREATMENT! OVEN CELL PHONE! KEYS! RIGHT! and so on down the list. heals well from the. er 🙂 forgot what it’s called when you forget everything :))))))
zzzzuka 2008-07-03 11:13:00 (link) sclerosis))))))HAHAH, that’s cool advice. I’ll have to try it!
I also sometimes forget my keys at home, and then sit under the door for a long time and dream of the beautiful)))))))
sinistra1456 2008-07-03 11:35:00 (link) does not help)) I have. i go back 3 or 4 times if i don’t make it to the mtro.)
sinistra1456 2008-07-03 11:40:00 (link)repeated returns.This is an official disease of some kind. what to do. I don’t know. take them all with you to work. irons, tongs, electrical plates.
zzzzuka 2008-07-03 11:42:00 (link)Re: repeated returns.Yeah, the refrigerator, the washing machine, the vacuum cleaner, the toilet. And that’s how to go to work every day.That’s an interesting idea.I now understand why Mary Poppins also had a lot of stuff in her purse
wildest_honey 2008-07-03 11:30:00 (link)I have one for the baby:) despite the fact that it is written in huge letters RYUKZAK, still manages to forget it. Says he’s already used to the paper and does not notice:)
pattu 2008-07-03 11:12:00 (link) oops, actually wanted to give some advice to the author of the post. i missed it 🙂 but i don’t feel bad for anyone!
anna_v_d 2008-07-03 10:39:00 (link)I have been home from work 2 times really about the unplugged electric stove. Both times it turned out that for nothing. turned it off on automatic. But I just have weak nerves and the staff is kind 🙂
arinka 2008-07-03 10:40:00 (link) once did not turn off. Standing on the ironing board, half a meter from the wooden bed. At the mark of two.All day, thankfully, nothing stuck, but it didn’t turn off either. Philips Azure Iron.
camo_camo 2008-07-03 10:42:00 (link) a hundred times I forgot the iron! a soviet iron, for example. I got a new taffal. I’ve forgotten a couple of times, too. nothing happened. My parents once had a broken regulator and the soleplate melted. this is the worst story of my life experience) I think you should not be nervous. although it is certainly not worth abusing, as I did)))
Intrusive thoughts. and whether the iron is off and other rituals.
Sitting in an important meeting, doing paperwork, for example, and then. like a thunderbolt out of the blue. She! A thought about the unplugged iron, and that’s it. I can’t think about anything else. And in my head pictures one scarier than another, how the fire brigade has already arrived, and the neighbors are standing outside, wrapped in blankets, and their eyes are confused and full of sorrow. And you’re sitting there, counting your losses, and you can imagine the hatred that’s directed at the culprit.
Or you’re getting ready to leave the house, and disaster strikes again: a gas explosion, leaking pipes, or forgotten important things. And I have to double-check: sniff the stove, turn the faucets, shake the bag 10 times.
I mean, definitely something could happen. And that something will surely kill and destroy.
In other words, the aggravation of the ritual happens at the moment when the psyche feels the threat of the destruction of the familiar world.
That is, something will happen as a result of which the familiar world “dies”.
-stressful situations. emotion breaks the usual stability, which is also death, the dying of a habitual state. For example, in an exam or a job interview. “If I pass the interview, I’ll be hired, but how will I be there, how will I get used to the new people, how will I get used to the new place?? If I don’t pass, what will I do?? Everything CHANGES.”.
Of course, change. it’s not the death that stops everything. But here, more often than not, change is “like death.
Because, more often than not, it denies what we all feel when our world is falling apart. It’s not about fear. It’s about anger, which is absolutely natural to feel when your world is being destroyed.
And where anger and aggression are denied, the inner emotional world is both poor and frightening.
Poor because all emotions require inner freedom, which is not there. And there’s no such thing as “pure” emotions, they’re all a mixture. love and aggressive urges at the same time. For example, sexual interest, is based not only on the love attraction to a person as someone good, but also on a rather aggressive attraction to “dive in, penetrate another person, get inside another person’s bodily boundary”. Accordingly, we push back the residence of anger and aggression, and, as a result, all areas of emotional life suffer.
And the emotions become frightening because, again, there are no “pure” only good and only aggressive emotions. And it turns out that by allowing ourselves to live deeply emotionally, we somehow release what we can’t. So it is better to let everything go straight through your head so that it does not turn out that you laugh and want to kill. I’m exaggerating, of course. But imagine the level of unconscious internal pressure to push emotions out in their purest form. Thus denied aggression takes the form of an excessive desire to control, to monitor order, to keep an eye on whether everything is taken, whether everything is turned off, etc.д.
Why it is impossible to feel your aggression? Will someone really die if you get angry at them?? Do we have the right for anger??
At first glance, the connection is not obvious, that the repressed emotional state comes back to us in the form of intrusive thoughts and actions.
But have you considered what we are really trying to control through ritual??
information in a conversation with Yulia Levchinskaya on Talking about Psychology
How to remember something: a word or a person’s name
There are times when you want to remember a word, and it rolls around on your tongue, but still it does not come to mind. The older we get, the more often this situation follows us. In a state of stress, it is even more difficult to solve such a problem.
How to solve it: first, you need to calm down and convince yourself that it happens to everyone. Next you need to take a deep breath, which will help clarify your thoughts. Then you need to say out loud the first association with the word that comes to mind, such as: “This word has something to do with water” or “This person’s name begins with C.”. Start going through the letters of the alphabet, and chances are you’ll find the one with which a forgotten last name or word begins. After that it will not be difficult to remember the whole word. If that doesn’t work, just replace the word with its synonym or a description.
Manipulation of the brain
These kinds of problems can give us insight into how the brain manipulates long-term and short-term goals simultaneously and still remains flexible when situations change. Set tasks can even be stored in the brain intentionally to help our productivity. One scenario may maintain intentions in the brain after you have performed a task with another goal in mind. It is possible that a small task that is part of a main goal is only deactivated when the goal itself is achieved. If a person needs to complete a multi-step process of backing up a computer or a boss’ order, but you keep going back and constantly forgetting something important. it could be the cause of the staggered work of the brain. Researchers still don’t fully understand why assigned tasks can persist in the brain after they have been performed. It may open up new hypotheses about how we remember tasks and regulate behavior.
In everyday life, familiar activities have a strong effect on a person’s memory. But it is well known that sleep, which takes up about a third of our lives, is essential for fixing memories. Dr. Kate Porchert of Oxford University proved that sleep deprivation reduced patients’ memories of videos they had seen earlier by 30%. Professor Won-boy Gunn of China has discovered new neural connections that form in the brains of mice when they sleep after learning a new motor task.